“Me Too”

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Did you know 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime? I am one of the four women. I’ve recently come to the realization many of my friends are also victims of abuse. Violence against women has always been in the media but women have always been looked down on for speaking out against the violence. It’s always that “they asked for it.” Even #45 thinks it’s okay to grab women by the pussy and half of America agrees with that. He is #45 after all.

I have never seen this much support when it comes to women and violence until the Harvey Weinstein case was brought to my attention. I have been friends with so many of those that posted the silent “me too” as their Facebook status. Some went in deeper to write the year they experienced abuse and some went in deeper as to writing the whole story on their abuse. 

A Walking Virtue was an idea that came to mind because I had escaped a very abusive relationship in New York. I escaped that relationship in early 2007 but lived with shame until early 2011. I blamed myself for staying. I kept thinking “What did I do wrong for him to beat me?” I wasn’t wrong. I was a woman that wanted a better life for myself. I did not want to be the cookie cutter stay at home “wife” that he wanted me to be. So, I fought back. I escaped.

I launched A Walking Virtue in 2011 in hopes to share stories of women with similar situations. I found nothing. I then went to the root of the problem and started to volunteer at middle schools. I thought “If I can teach these young women to know the signs of domestic violence, I can end it.” I couldn’t be trusted by all the young teenagers that were exploring their sexuality and replacing real love with lust. They saw me as an adult that will tell their mom their secrets.

Later in 2011, I started to volunteer at organizations that served women experiencing  violence. Not just women. These women were a lot older than me. They had lived experience. Multiple assaults, divorce that left them homeless, repeated assaults on the street while being homeless. TRAUMA. I went through trauma. These women went through trauma. I now know that I have close friends and acquaintances that have gone through trauma. 

THE REBIRTH OF A WALKING VIRTUE

Each “me too” status made me want to fight. I decided I need to rebirth A Walking Virtue. I want to continue to tell stories of women who have overcome adversity; especially those who have experienced domestic violence, assault, or any sort of trauma that have been detrimental to their path of success. I know plenty of women who have gone through trauma. I want to share your story. My story lives here. Please contact me if you’d like to share your story!

Love & Light,

Latoya

4 Comments Add yours

  1. Sheena says:

    I absolutely agree! It’s amazing (not in a good way) how this can be so normalized that when we as women are harassed some of the time we don’t even think to address it. Hopefully the attention on the topic will progress us forward #45 be damned lol

    1. Latoya Hawthorne says:

      Right! He hasn’t even addressed it because he doesn’t see it as an issue and sadly there’s a large group of folks with him that still believe that “they asked for it” or “they wanted it.”

  2. Kerry-Ann says:

    Such a powerful article. I applaud you and all the women who are brave enough to take a stand and fight back. This #metoo movement is much needed.
    Xo

    1. Latoya Hawthorne says:

      Thanks sis! Love you too!

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